So, I have a friend (YES, I have a friend) who has a rather interesting outlook on the stages of relationship desires as it pertains to both men and women. I thought I might share them with everyone.
Age 18-22, you either want to play someone or be played. At this stage of life most people are just wanting to get some action and don't really care who it comes from or who they hurt to get it. A lot of times you will see the girls going for the bad boys and the men going for the skanky girls.
Age 23-26, that PERFECT somebody is so close! At this stage women know who Mr. PERFECT is and men know who Ms. PERFECT is; but neither of them know WHERE they are. A lot of times this can cause for the guy or girl to not really want to date anyone they see NOT as their PERFECT somebody.
Age 27-30, take whatever you can get. This is the time when you are starting to reach the top of the hill so whatever you can get is probably all you can get. So take whatever it is you can get.
Now these stages are rather controversial and based mainly on level of maturity. They are not all set in stone, you can fudge a year or two (it is said that men are to be given 2 years since they tend not to mature as fast) but there are VERY FEW exceptions.
Where do I land in this? I don't know.
I don't think any of these and this is why I see this model as somewhat controversial. What about the guy or girl who is just looking to find who they like, I'm not sure what I want in a man anymore but I know I'm not looking to be played and I know I don't have a Mr. PERFECT out there, but I'm not willing to take whatever I can get.
So where do I fall?
4 comments:
Sara you are too funny! that is soo true!
Sara, this is funny. Which friend has this theory?
It's kind of a good theory...in theory. I have had lots of years where I have watched many "lucky ones" get married at 18. Oh how glad I am that I didn't get married at 18. I felt impatient when I was 22 and friends were getting married. Oh how grateful I am that I wasn't 22 when I got married. When I was 26 I thought, 'this is it' why am I not married? OH how grateful that I wasn't married when I was 26! Now here I am at 33 thinking maybe NOW I am ready - I've seen marriages, babies come, babies go, divorces, jackasses and whiney Biotches...and all in all I am SO GRATEFUL to be learning what I am learning NOW! I am pretty sure that I'll always want to be married but I'd rather wait for someone I can't live without instead of trying to find someone to live with! :)
Interesting… I might try some of this on my blog, too. It’s quite interesting how you sometimes stop being innovative and just go for an accepted solution without actually trying to improve it… you make a couple of good points.
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